Little Red Corvette (Dating Adventures)

On to the next. I meet a new guy. A little farther away. A little older in age. Gorgeous smile. Might be worth the travel were my first thoughts when we introduced ourselves to each other. He was straightforward. And damn I love straightforward. My mind works a little differently so I love a guy that isn't afraid to spell things out. We're going to call him Mr. Red Corvette as in that top single that Prince released in 1983. As in this guy had me singing "Baby you're much too fast" *throws up peace sign horizontally in front of eyes*. Mr. Corvette worked with special needs children (this hits close to home) and had just returned home to be close to his parents who by the way were married for 35 years. My goodness. He was endearing. Very smooth. He had too good to be true written all over him, I suppose. We spoke for hours on the phone. Great chemistry. I was definitely open to a first date when he asked. We began making plans which as a mother of three is a bit challenging. He was very understanding of this which reassured me that he was worth the effort. We had a date set up and all we could do was talk about how much better our chemistry would be once we were sitting across from one another. Or next to each other. His joke...not mine....lol. Cute shit like that. Unfortunately something came up the weekend we had plans. Mom duty. My son needed me and that's all I need to say about that. He needs me, I'm there. Mr. Corvette took the news better than I imagined he would. Later in the day he offered to drive over an hour just to hold a conversation outside my home since he knew that I was home with my son. This was charming however it surprised me. It just seemed like a lot of energy to put into someone you've just met. I felt weird about it and expressed this to him. We could just reschedule. His urgency made me apprehensive. He stayed true to his gentlemanly ways but then dove into a monologue worthy of an Academy award. Something about how moved he was by the little he did know about me. How there was just something about me (they all say that) and he knew that I would make a great wife one day. And that he and I could be something incredible. When his speech was met with stunned silence he mistook that to mean continue. He continued to explain that he would love to get to know me better so that we could eventually  move in together in a house he would purchase just for us and he was more than happy to be a step-father to my children. Again....stunned silence. Don't get me wrong. What he was saying sounded nice yet my brain was not interpreting it that way. My mind was on high alert. My entire body tensed up and I felt a little sick. Marriage? Move in? We haven't even gone on a first date yet. We haven't even tasted a teaspoon of each other's crazy yet. So I broached the topic cautiously; trying to find the most gentle way possible to derail this runaway love train he imagined us jumping on. Finally, I decided he's a straightforward guy, surely he can handle the same. So I just stopped him mid sentence and said "no". "No?" he echoed back. Now it was time for my speech. This was way too fast. I take relationships day by day. I don't ever intend to live with another man nor do I ever intend to subscribe to the religious, social and most frighteningly legal institution of American marriage. He was at a lost for words. Then he found some that only made the situation worse. "What about children? I want to have a child one day." Sheesh. How could we speak for hours and never touch on deal breakers? Well here we go. If it isn't through adoption, you would never father a child with me. It's just not going to happen. We spoke for long time afterwards. Our final conversation. The same chemistry and laughter lingered as we decided that it was best to keep moving in different directions. He wished me well. I wished him better. I actually felt relieved hanging up the phone that day. Mr. Corvette made me re-evaluate what it is I am truly looking for. What I've always been looking for. It's just difficult to articulate without it being misinterpreted. Without someone else trying to package my desires and fold it into a neat box. I want to meet an honorable, loyal and protective member of the opposite sex with a high libido and a love for learning his woman if nothing else. One who is willing to take our relationship day by day. Can we just vibe and see where things go? Be happy for 2 days of happiness or 2,000. Whatever God grants us. I don't know. Anyway the search continues.....